Real Healing Requires the RIGHT Tools
Real Healing Requires the RIGHT Tools
Embarking on a healing journey from trauma can often feel like climbing a mountain. In this episode of The School of Resilience, Dr. Maria Bargeman emphasizes the importance of having the "right fit" for your self-regulation tools and strategies. Much like trying to hike a mountain in ill-fitting boots, using self-care strategies that don’t suit you will inevitably hinder progress. Dr. Bargeman highlights the need for personalized self-regulation tools that cater to each individual's unique emotional triggers and contexts. From dealing with emotional hijacking to creating proactive plans for stressful environments, she explains why one-size-fits-all solutions rarely work and why finding what fits you best is essential for emotional growth and resilience.
Dr. Bargeman shares relatable personal experiences to illustrate how self-regulation looks different for everyone. While her friend finds calm through drawing and music, she finds clarity and grounding through trail running. The key takeaway? Your self-regulation strategy must be unique to you. Dr. Bargeman also offers practical guidance on creating contingency plans for trauma triggers. From using music and movement to calm the nervous system to pre-recording voice memos for emotional reassurance, she provides actionable tools for listeners to stay emotionally grounded when faced with sudden triggers. These tools are essential for navigating intense emotional states and regaining composure.
The episode concludes with a deeper discussion on emotional pacing and the value of having support systems in place. Dr. Bargeman stresses the importance of flexibility and open communication with loved ones, employers, and support networks when navigating emotional challenges. By creating trauma trigger contingency plans, like setting clear communication expectations or building in "check-in" moments, listeners can prevent emotional overwhelm. This episode is a powerful reminder that healing is not a solo journey. The right equipment, proper pacing, and a compassionate support network are all essential for success. Learn more about Dr. Maria Bargeman's unique approach to trauma recovery at mariabargeman.com and follow her journey on Instagram at @resilienttraumarecovery.
Takeaways
The Importance of the Right Fit: Healing from trauma is like climbing a mountain — the right tools and self-regulation strategies are essential. What works for one person may not work for another, and success comes from finding the strategies that fit your unique needs.
Personalized Contingency Plans: Prepare for emotional hijacking moments by creating trauma trigger contingency plans. These pre-planned strategies — like listening to music, doing physical activity, or using voice memos — can help ground you in moments of overwhelm.
Support Systems Matter: Healing isn't a solo journey. Effective communication with loved ones, work colleagues, and support systems is essential for navigating emotional challenges. Create clear communication plans, set expectations, and allow space for self-compassion as you work toward emotional stability and growth.
